It’s time to start putting the puzzle together. We have lots of pieces that all fit, now it’s our job as readers to figure out how.
The book started with three separate stories, each one about love, loss, and self discovery, yet seemingly disconnected from the others. Eventually the stories converged and formed one unified novel. Along the way there were all sorts of clues, hinting at the character connections and plot twists, we just didn't know to search for them. Looking back now as we near the end, it is apparent that all those little clues and hints along the way amounted to the major themes and ideas.
Here is a list (a la Alma Singer) of what we can and should learn from The History of Love:
1. Don’t let other people control your happiness
Mistake number one that Leo makes is back during his childhood. He wrote for the thrill of writing, but then started writing to please the girl he loved. After facing her rejection, he started again, taking her advice. Then one day “the only person whose opinion [he] cared about left on a boat for America, [but he] continued to fill the pages with her name” (Krauss 8). Leo shows how people are not always in your life to stay, they come and go. If you hold on too tight, raising them up on a pedestal, it will only end up hurting you, because you are essentially giving them power over your happiness.
2. Love is more than skin deep
Uncle Julian, Alma’s uncle, takes her out for a birthday dinner one night. He tells her how he met his wife, Frances.”[He] saw her at the zoo in front of the chimpanzee cage, and she was wearing bright blue tights. And [he] thought: That’s the girl I’m going to marry...if it hadn’t been for those tights, [he] [didn’t] think [he] would have ever gone up to her” (178). No wonder Uncle Julian doesn’t have a great marriage and is sending letters to other women. This is a perfect example of how not to pick someone to marry. Love should be built on a foundation of friendship and commonality, not appearances. In the long run, having a solid foundation is what will make a relationship last.
3. Love cannot be forced
It happens naturally, gradually and out of willingness. However, some people, like Alma tried to believe otherwise. She attempted to find a new man for her depressed mother who lost her husband to pancreatic cancer. She tried Dr. Tucci, the veterinarian who visited her school, Jacob Marcus, the man who wanted the translation of The History of Love, Lyle, who was at Oxford at the same time as her mother, and Henry Lavender, the doctor who tended to Bird’s wrist. Yet, none of them worked. Why not? Because, none of them could form a relationship with the mother. The necessary ingredients for love of time, spiritual connection, friendship, and compatibility were not there. When love is meant to be, like David and Charlotte’s, it will happen on its own.
4. Words have the power to create, comfort, and cure
Leo used his stories to develop Bruno, a childhood friend who supposedly “died on a July day in 1941” (249). Bruno’s character provides Leo with comfort in the sense that Leo feels there is someone who cares about him. Bruno also pushes him to be independent. For example, when Leo is getting on the train to go to Isaac’s house in Connecticut, Bruno pretends to trip and stay behind, knowing “[he] wouldn’t have gone alone...and needed to” (161). Bruno’s character, even if only a figment of Leo’s imagination and writing, provides him with comfort and lessening his loneliness.
Alma uses her stories to keep her dad alive. She recounts memories of him camping, planting lemon trees and carrots, and singing. She even makes up some memories about how “he and mom danced all the time” (52) and “he used to call [Bird] Manny” (52). These remembrances of the past give her hope for the future and provide her with comfort for her devastating loss.
5. The truth is never fully the truth
Unfortunately, truth is always clouded by some bias. It is very hard to remember exactly what happened or exactly what was said. Alma and Leo both demonstrate this through their use of storytelling. They both blend together what really happened with that they wish had happened and what they think happened. In some ways, this is the beauty of storytelling. In other ways, it makes for confusion and disbelief and calls into question the credibility of the characters. It becomes hard to believe almost anything Leo says, because he often makes up stories. The fact that he wrote a book titled The History of Love and that is the title of this book means that anything in it could be false. It is all just a story. Also, Alma does a blend of reality and fiction with her memories of her dad. Some are true memories, but others are just stories. It is our job as readers to be aware of this and skeptical of what we are being told.
(Side note: This is a theme that has been developed by other books as well. In particular, Tim O’brien’s The Things They Carried uses a blend of fiction and nonfiction as well as the concept of storytelling. It has many similarities and should be added to your reading list after this one!)
6. People are like glass
Glass is a motif that came up throughout the novel, especially in the excerpt from The History of Love titled the Age of Glass. It is used as a symbol for people. Although Leo says “[he’s] not made of glass” (84) at one point, he really is. He feels transparent, invisible even, and longs to be seen by people. That is why he spills his popcorn in the movie theater, makes a show of ordering a blended coffee beverage at Starbucks, and poses as a nude model. All people want to be seen. They want to be recognized and their presence to be known, not looked right through like glass. Yet, aren’t all people transparent at times in terms of their emotions? Emotions can only be held back for so long, before coming out. It is at that point that people become transparent and fragile. No longer are they sheltered, hidden by a protective shell. Instead, they are vulnerably exposed to others. It is also at that point that they can shatter, their shards and fragments scattering everywhere like a glass hitting tile.
7. War has devastating repercussions
The majority of the characters are Jewish and were unfortunately impacted during the time of World War II. They dealt with separation from their family, displacement from their homes, and distance from their heritage. Alma Meriminski fled her home in Slonim, Poland to go to America, and years later Leo did the same to escape the “Einsatzgruppen [that] drove deeper east, killing hundreds of thousands of Jews” (12). Both of them lost family members to the brutal camps and felt lost in the unfamiliar new world they had to call home. This provides an explanation for why Leo frequently uses non-Englishwords interspersed throughout his writing: it was his way of holding on to the past. Those words provide him the comfort of his life back in Poland. Other characters, too, were harmed by the war. Zvi Litvinoff moved to Chile and lived a lonely life. He spent his days missing his sister, Miriam and “listen[ing] [to the radio] with horror to the progress of the Nazis” (155). Unfortunately, these character’s stories are factually quite close to the devastation people experienced during the war. In this way, the book serves as a reminder of the repercussions of war.
8. People want to be remembered
What good is it to be alive if you will be forgotten once you are dead? The hard work from your lifetime will vanish if you don’t leave your mark. This is Leo’s mentality. and he does an excellent job of making sure this doesn’t happen. In addition to making disruptive public scenes, he leaves his name wherever he goes. When he is in the limousine on the way to help someone out, he writes his name on the window and whenever he takes care of a lock, he leaves behind his initials. Bird does something similar in that he writes his name “in chalk across [his] front door, across his class photograph...and on the tree in front of [his] house” (37). We, too, should want to leave our mark on the world, however, there are other ways we can go about doing that. We can make an impact on and touch the lives of those around us or we can do something that people will always remember (preferably not using one of Leo’s methods). As Alma’s mom puts it, wherever we go, we should “leav[e] behind [our] trail of sand” (39).
9. Names develop identity
Similar to how Margaret Atwood and Toni Morrison used names to develop the characters in The Handmaid’s Tale and Song of Solomon, Nicole Krauss uses names to develop meaning for two characters in The History of Love, Bird and Alma. Bird’s nickname shows his desire for freedom. Like a bird, he wishes he could fly away. Throughout most of the novel it is pouring rain, which is symbolic of the prevalent grieving and sadness, and he tries to build an ark for shelter. He longs to set sail and move away from the heaviness he is surrounded by. In addition, he got his name from an attempt to fly, which left him with a permanent scar on his forehead and later injuries to his wrists. From this, he can be characterized as a Christ-like figure and his religious beliefs are foreshadowed. Alma’s character, on the other hand, uses her name as a motivating force to discover who she is. Since she was named after the main character from The History of Love, she believes finding that Alma will give her deeper insight into herself. In both cases, names form the basis of the character’s identities and ultimately begin to shape who they are. Our names, too, and their origin, have meaning that characterize our identity and background.
10. Possessions shouldn't define you
The phrase “you can’t take it with you” is one that Leo has apparently never heard. He believes that “at the end, all that’s left of you are your possessions” (165). This explains why he’s “never been able to throw anything away…[and] hoarded the world” (165). He hoped that “when [he] died, the sum total of [his] things would suggest a life larger than the one [he] lived” (165). Sadly, he doesn’t realize that wrote a book that touched the lives of many. This ties back to the idea about how there is more than one way to leave your mark on the world. Leo left his in the form of literature, yet he still believes he will forever be defined by his possessions. From this, we should recognize that there is more to life than “stuff” and we should strive to be remembered by something more meaningful. Do keep in mind, however, we should not go so far as to put on a showy, fake exterior.
We also learned a bit about love from each character’s unique approach. There is definitely something valuable to be taken from each of their histories of love and applied, perhaps, to our own lives.
Alma showed us what happens when we put self-discovery before love. The other person may get left behind and feel the relationship isn’t worth it. She also showed us how love doesn’t have a place for overanalyzing, it is best left to scientific endeavors.
Zvi demonstrated what happens when you try to use someone as a substitute for love. You will always be left with an emptiness in your heart and a longing for the person you truly love. It is ultimately not fair to the other person and ends up hurting both of you.
Leo exemplified what it means to build up love in your mind. He imagined this beautiful relationship with Alma, but fantasy and imagination do not serve him well when reality hit. He was smacked in the face by the realization that she had started another life without him, while he had been hopefully planning their life together. Though it is good to dream, it is still good to check in with reality every now and again to save yourself a lot of hurt in the end.